Here's my Little Cuties collection. It's all in pretty pastels, mostly pinks and ivory, and it's not for any bride, or even bridesmaids - it's been specially made for 4yrs and under.
This range is unusual for me because I tend to focus mostly on adults. However, I did decide to participate in a recent Baby and Toddler Fair, to support the students at Reaseheath College through the Etsy South Cheshire team, and this was the fun outcome.
The headbands are all made with a soft elastic base, and all embellished with a fabric flower or two, embellished with lace, beads or just completely with fabrics. The hair clips are all fabric flowers set onto a white hair clip. The colours are all pastels, all from a rainbow pastel range of fabrics that I had in stock - lemon yellow, salmon pink, baby pink, berry pink, the soft blue that I have been using for most of my 'Something Blue' items, a tiny bit of sage green, and of course, ivory.
The headbands are £5 per headband for those with a single fabric flower, and £8 for those with 2 flowers (plus P&P or free collection), and the hair clips from £4. They can be purchased from my ETSY shop, or simply by getting in touch directly.
As with any item for babies and very little ones, please be cautious with headbands and clips, and never allow your child to play with the accessories without your supervision. The flowers may have small parts such as beads and while care has been taken to attach all embellishments very securely, these are not toys to be played with. Headbands and hairclips should also never be worn without constant adult supervision - and should be removed when a child falls asleep.
Recently I have come across this debate on social media - if you're a vegan couple, should you compromise your principles and offer meat options in your wedding menu? The same conundrum for vegetarians too. As with everything, there are always two sides of the coin and a very heavy debate to be had!
Let's look at Julie and Sean, who are meat eaters, but have a couple of family and friends on a restricted diet. Like most meat-eating couple planning their wedding, adding a vegetarian option is simply a given. Julie and Sean found that most venues are ready to offer dietary options. And they find that catering for a vegetarian or two doesn't seem to be a huge issue, adding no extra costs to their budget. Most likely, catering for the odd vegan guests doesn't seem to be particularly problematic either. Nor is there a huge dilemna for other health related dietary requirements - e.g. gluten free, nut allergies, etc. Caterers tend to already have plans in place for those.
Julie and Sean go on to plan their standard meat eating menu, with the majority of the meals that are being served being to their taste, and containing some form of meat. Only a small minority will have a restricted diet meal.
Now, let's consider two vegan or vegetarian couples, who are so because of principles and ethics rather than food preference. Lucy and Tom are vegans, and it happens that most of their guests (but not all) are vegans too. Shona and Rick are vegetarians, but most of their guests are meat-eaters.
Lucy and Tom, who will only have a handful of non-vegans at their weddings, are considering offering meat options and vegetarian options for their friends and family who have a different diet to theirs. Their thought is that since each time they go to these particular family and friends, they are made very welcome, and are always offered some vegan food. For their special day, they want all their friends, irrespective of food principles, to have a good meal, to spend time with them without worrying about whether they'll go hungry, or stressing over they will enjoy the food that that the couple has decided for themselves. In some ways, Lucy and Tom are very similar to our first couple, Julie and Sean - with a reversal of menu.
However, Lucy and Tom's vegan guests are rather outraged that they are even considering serving meat at their wedding! Why should they compromise on their principles, they say. And it is Lucy and Tom's wedding, and Lucy and Tom are vegans, so they all say, for one day, can't their non-vegan family and friends do the same as them? Should Lucy and Tom bend to their peer pressure and keep the wedding fully vegan?
Now let's look at our third couple, Shona and Rick, who are vegetarians with a majority of meat-eater guests. Shona and Rick think like most of Lucy and Tom's vegan guests. It is their wedding, and they would love to serve only vegetarian options - surely for just one day, everyone can find something that they're happy with in all the options being served? (4 canapes options, 3 starter options, 3 main course options and 3 dessert options).
It so happens that Shona's parents and siblings are rather traditional diners, who love their meat and two vegs, and Rick's family are fussy eaters. So at the mention of a vegetarian menu, a number of them are threatening not to come to the wedding if they are not served alternative options. Other meat-eating guests are being polite, and will have a try of anything to keep the couple happy, but many are feeling worried they won't enjoy the food, or that they'll be hungry after so many hours at the wedding. Shona and Rick are rather frustrated at the feedback they've received. How can their nearest and dearest feel that it is even an option to not come to their wedding over a dispute on food? Would her mum and dad really not come to their own daughter's wedding because they don't like the food? Then they start worrying, would all the money they are spending on food be wasted because everyone will turn their nose on the food and go eat burgers and sausages round the corner? Should Shona and Rick turn their wedding into a meat feast to satisfy the majority of their guests, at the sake of their own wishes?
So it is all rather complicated, and for the majority of us, who are just guests at weddings, we can sometimes take things for granted and not think about the other side of the story. There is no real right or wrong answer, and often, a compromise is not a solution, it is just making all parties unhappy. The bottom line however, is that a wedding is not only an invitation to dine and satisfy your palates. A wedding is a celebration of two people formalising their union, and inviting you to share in their joy. With this principle in mind, the couple should really be able to freely express their preferences at their own wedding. However, these little tips below may help:
For brides- and grooms- to be:
- Do let the guests know in advance if the menu is not what they normally eat, so they have the choice to prepare or decline
- Do offer nibbles and canapes which most people could enjoy, irrespective of their food inclinations, and serve them after dinner too
- Do allow guests to bring snacks for little ones
- Do allow flexibility over what part of the wedding your guests can attend (if they want to skip dinner but come to the ceremony and the evening party for example)
- Do expect some people to decline your invitation, and try not to be upset if they do
- Don't expect everyone to want to eat what's on the menu
For guests who seriously don't want to eat what the couple is serving:
- Do be grateful for the invite - not everyone makes it on the list!!
- Do make plans for what you will eat on the day (e.g. a big meal before the wedding and a midnight snack after)
- Do (politely) tell the couple if you are not intending to eat - there is no need for them to waste money on making you a meal you won't eat
- Do try to remember that you're not there for a food fest, but for celebrating a wedding
- Don't complain too much (openly!), no matter how frustrated you are!!
And for everyone, let's always remember that there is more than food at a wedding. We can all equally enjoy the ceremony, the first dance, the party, the atmosphere, the family and friends gathered, the flowers, the music, and the list goes on...
Star Baker Cheshire - Lemon cake and Drip cake featured above, and more yummy gluten-free, dairy-free, and vegan treats also being created in house for small and big celebrations.
Blue Lily Magnolia certainly does not make wedding food (we just enjoy them), but we make gorgeous bridal accessories, which assist many beautifully weird and wonderful celebrations. To have a look at previous work, check out the gallery.
Last month I shared with you a "Nautical Punk Rock Festival Wedding" - the amazing wedding of Jess and Dan, which was featured on the Rock n Roll Bride blog. I had the honour of making the bouquet, corsages, and men's boutonnieres for the wedding and this month, the newly weds kindly share with us their advice, recommendations and tips on organising and enjoying their perfect wedding. Read on the Rock n Roll Bride blog for more detail of their unique festival, music-centred wedding, and here, we have just a little bit more to help you get on with your own planning!
Thank you Jess and Dan for sharing your experience with us! xxx
1) After you'd agreed on your theme for the wedding, where did you go for inspiration and ideas on how to turn your vision to reality?
We used all sorts of resources as inspiration - Pinterest, alternative wedding blogs, punk festivals and traditional tattoo styles!
Our theme was based on our love of punk-rock, 50s style, polaroid photography and of course, music. we were ultimately trying to throw a kind of festival-party that we would love to attend. We didn't want a generic wedding band or DJ playing chart music, we wanted it to be like a festival or gig that we'd look forward to going to - all the bands we booked were bands that we have seen live at gigs/festivals or have been desperate to see and just not had the opportunity yet.
2) Did you attend any wedding shows that you'd recommend, specifically for alternative ideas?
We went to the Eclectic Wedding Extravaganza - it's aimed at people who want a slightly alternative wedding. It's put on by both our photographer (Assassynation) and my dressmaker (Jo from The Couture Company). It was brilliant and I'd highly recommend going - they even put on a party in the evening now!
3) Was the actual big day exactly as you first imagined? (Or did your ideas change along the way?)
The look and feel of the day was exactly as we imagined - just with rain instead of sun!
4) With hindsight, is there anything you spent money on, but feel was not necessary, or could have been done cheaper?
No - we really considered every option when booking suppliers or buying stuff. We didn't always pick the cheapest option, because we were going for quality and passion, which was really important to us. However, we knew a few of our suppliers and made our own buntings and fabric table flowers so this helped us save money, and kept us on budget.
5) How did you select your suppliers out of so many out there?
We picked the people that were the most passionate about what they do and the most interested in our weding, and helping to make it go smoothly. We went for the people we had the best feeling about, and it wasn't always the cheapest suppliers we went for, as they weren't always the best quality, or most interested in what we were going for. Overall, we went for the suppliers we trusted the most.
6) What would you say were there first few things to sort out / book for a style of wedding like yours?
Book the venue and bands ASAP - you can't have a festival wedding without the music or the infrastructure! We sent emails out to a band we were certain on, and the tent supplier on the same day. The band could only do one date that we could work with, and it worked for the tent supplier, so that decided the date we got married on!
(Jess:) After that, I would suggest to not to forget to book hair and make-up - I left this quite late as I was so concerned with everything else, but it's really important. Your hair and make-up, if you're anything like me, will give you a huge confidence boost, and you need to feel 100% confident in them to do a good job.
7) If you had to do it again, anything you'd do differently?
(Jess:) I would have made time to dig out our GoPro and put someone in charge of making sure it always had battery and SD card space - to film bits of the wedding that weren't captured by the videographer. I'd also have given a point and click camera to one of my bridesmaids to take photos once the photographers had left - we would've had photos of the third band, and of us both crowd surfing when Thrill Collins played the Dirty Dancing classic, 'Time of my Life'! It was the first time either of us had crowd surfed too, so it felt really special! There was also a fair bit of skanking during the headline set by New Town Kings, which we wish we'd captured on film, but they went on later in the evening after the videographer had left.
I'd also say, if something doesn't quite go to plan, make sure you speak up - a few things happened on our day that weren't quite what we'd planned with a couple of our suppliers, but I found myself in a 'Bride Bubble' and didn't speak up, which isn't like me at all!
8) How involved was the groom-to-be? To what extent should grooms-to-be be involved?
(Jess:) 100% involved in every aspect. We're a team and planned the day according to what we both wanted. I think it's best to both be equally involved. I did most of the admin, but we decided on all the suppliers, designs and bands (etc.) together.
9) What were your biggeset challenges, and what helped to make them easier?
Pressure to conform to wedding norms and missing out on cool stuff that was going on because we were saving or preparing for the wedding (too many missed gigs!). I loved being so busy, but this was definitely the downside for us. It helped knowing we were planning a wedding that we both really wanted and knew that everyone would have an amazing time!
10) And finally, what advice would you give to couples who are specifically planning a quirky or alternative wedding?
Write a 'day of' plan and circulate to all suppliers - especially photographers, videographers, make-up artists and hairdressers, as well as all bridesmaids and groomsmen, as they can help guests better that way if needed. We used Google Docs for this and it really helped. Start a budget spreadsheet as soon as you can to help keep you on track financially. I'd also suggest using experienced professionals for key jobs - I ended up having to find a hairdresser and make-up artist quite last minute as I originally decided to try to save money by going with people I knew. Closer to the date, I realised I'd taken too big a risk on such an important piece of the day when a trial fell through. It was very stressful and could have been easily avoided.
Have a call with your photographer in the week running up to the wedding to go through what group shots you'd like - we found this really helpful, as well as a run through with your videographer. If you can, have a 'day of coordinator' - ours was a colleague that I work with and she really helped things run smoothly, and stopped us from having to worry about when bands were turning up etc.
Jess and Dan got married in a big top tent in a field in Gloucestershire, with a festival-themed wedding. The festival name was aptly 'Tie the Knot Festival'. Read more and view the amazing gallery here!
Blue Lily Magnolia makes bespoke bridal and wedding accessories, specialising in creating fabric flowers for your unique accessories. If you want to see examples of work, have a look at the gallery here.